Why isn’t my marriage what I thought it would be like? Over the years my childhood belief has disappeared, wondering did they really live happily ever after, or were they constantly fighting and filed for divorce.
No, the story states happily ever after with no buts, they lived happily ever after but…. the prince left Belle because she nagged him too much and Prince Charming had 100 concubines because Cinderella’s body wasn’t the same after having 3 kids and he wasn’t satisfied with their intimate life; Snow White left her Prince Charming because he was really messy and wouldn’t help around the house and look after their five screaming children because he worked too much. No, they lived happily ever after. Real life isn’t quite the same. Marriage, as all relationships require work. Quality time, communication and compromise are the keys to a good marriage.
For those of you who are single, you may think, I’ll never meet my Prince Charming all the good ones are taken, men don’t know how to treat a woman these days…..Or for guys she’s only after my money and good looks or the opposite, she earns more money than me, I feel completely emasculated; she’s too beautiful, she’ll never be interested in me. Whatever it is, talk to God about your marital issues or lack of marital status. Remember married people can be jealous of single people because they seemingly have more freedom, do not need to answer to anybody and don’t have kids constantly demanding their attention 24/7.
Marriage or singledom is not a fix. God is The Fix to all your problems. Talk to God, He listens.
With all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35
I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife-- and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
- Zhen Ang